Facial expressions and body language reveal a lot more about a person than their words. All you have to do is see what isn’t being said.
Observation is important. If you notice that something’s off about someone, ask them about it. Maybe it’s a casual joke about death or a sudden change in their favorite music. Anything, really. We wouldn’t know what the people we care about are going through unless we talk to them.
We don’t realize it, but simply saying, “I’m here for you. Let’s talk.” is uplifting. To know that someone out there cares enough to listen to endless rambling and witness emotional outbursts. All because you asked again.
It’s not about hiding emotions, it’s about being afraid to express them. Being afraid that someone will notice and then you’re forced to explain and admit. The thing about emotion is that you don’t have to say a word about how you’re feeling. It is seen.
You’re a warrior, I don’t deny that. But it’s okay to open up sometimes. To let the world see you as you are: raw, broken and yet of unparalleled beauty. It’s okay to come home and put down your shield and scream in frustration about a battle you lost or do your happy dance to celebrate victory. You’re not alone.
Last week in class, I asked a friend about how she was feeling and she told me that she was fine. She didn’t look like it, but I backed off. Later, she hugged me and thanked me for noticing. “I was feeling low, but I’m better now.”, she said, “Thank you for asking twice.”
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